Self-realization means, of course, to realize the Self. Realizing the small self is a completely different thing and it is usually called self-actualization. In fact in Self-realization, you step out of the small self forever. There are two distinct types of Self-realization: one without “lovebliss” and one with. In a strict evolutionary progression lovebliss comes after void. It is the project of a lifetime to get Self-realized. You don’t just do a couple of “spiritual” weekend seminars and then forget about it. You will know when you are stuck in this project, because you will intuitively know that there is a Pure Self that is really you, and you will not rest, ever, until you merge with it.